Translation: I was the jealous, also betrayed them and the possessive one. I checked up on my ex-partner 24/7 and made sure
they were only focused on me during the love-bombing stage of the relationship. Then, I began to emotionally withhold from my ex-partner, deliberately provoking
jealousy in them constantly to make them feel off-kilter and suspicious – all
so I could be the dominant one in the relationship. Even when their concerns
were valid and a result of my manipulation, I gaslit them into believing otherwise and raged at
them, setting them up for crazymaking arguments. I told them that every time they asked me a
legitimate question about my shady behavior, they were interrogating me and
needed to stop. So long as they believed they were the problem, I was free to do whatever I wanted
without being held accountable for my actions.
Remember: People who are more
successful, talented, attractive, or more well-loved than they are (unless it
benefits them directly).
Unless a narcissist is using you for
financial resources, status by association, or as “arm candy,” they have a
deep pathological and malicious envy of those who surpass them
in the areas of success, talent, and attractiveness. They dislike it when
victims have a great deal of outside validation apart from them because it
makes that victim less susceptible to their manipulation. They are quite jealous of
the positive attention their victims receive from others. That is why they so
strongly try to devalue these victims early on. It’s an automatic reflex for
them to try to put down anyone that triggers their sense of entitlement and
inferiority or challenges their grandiose view of themselves simply by existing
in their strengths. They want a victim who they can control, not
someone they have to fight for and over. Even worse? They despise
victims who are confident in themselves and are not willing to put up with
their bullshit. If you come off as a bit more egocentric to the
narcissist and put yourself on the pedestal with a strong, unshakeable
self-concept, they’ll likely leave you alone to hunt for people who are more
willing to adore them. Better yet, level up in all areas of your life so that you have
multiple sources of support outside of them. Even if they continue to target
you because they like a challenge, they’ll eventually become worn out.
Concrete Angel
You are not alone.
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