Let Go of What Hurts You

Time has made me understand that letting go is not giving up, it’s not an act of weakness but rather of strength and growth. Because though it hurts me to let you go, I understand that there are things that cannot be and things you cannot change, and you can't make people change no matter how hard you try to keep it together or love them.

 

Throughout my own life’s path, I have left many things behind, I have broken away from scenarios, situations, abuse, customs and even people. Everything I am today the sum of what I’ve chosen to keep from the path, to become my most authentic self in the present, although this has involved much suffering. Letting go is in fact, part of the wheel of life, where every step forward helps us remove ourselves from what cannot be, what hurts, and what doesn’t add to our happiness.

 

Life often involves cutting ties and leaving our hands empty of previous joys, hopes what we wished could be. It is certainly painful. However, let’s assume that the sooner we do it the more prepared we will be to overcome these moments, these crossroads can make you remain stuck of what cannot be or what we cannot change so we must start to pick a direction in life.

 

Nostalgia occasionally enriches and inspires, but living in the past and clinging to what you’ve left behind does not allow you to grow. I had to Free myself, advance and be grateful for what I have experienced as one who preserves a precious treasure even the good and the bad: it enriches me inside and helped me follow the most appropriate path, one of balance and authenticity. It's one of the hardest things and I am still working on it.. 

 

What I also found was that sometimes what we let go was something that we trusted at one time in the beginning and in many cases, made us happy or gave us hope. But at some point, the joy and hope transform to pain, and we are faced with the difficulty of having to let go of that person or that situation that was hurting us with abuse and betrayal.

 

Even what was once good can suddenly stop doing you good, bring suffering, and even the person who says they love you lied, and you start letting go a little more each day; like the person who plucks the petals of a flower until they leave it naked with just its thorns.

 

We’ve all been told before that life is also letting go, allowing yourself to flow without avoiding resistance. But how is this achieved? As people we need security in our day-to-day lives and need the people who love us today to love us the same way they do tomorrow. We also need a trusting partner that will not hurt us or tears of pain and grow a future together. 

 

 Trust me, the act of letting go can imply a gesture of courage and self-knowledge of what is happening around us cause sometimes we walk with blind folds on in hope that things will change, or they will change behavior. We need to know our limits and what we really want for ourselves and when it is enough. I found in my time that my partner who we walked hand in hand ends up leading me down the path of unhappiness from abuse and betrayal, I need to let go to find my own way even though I know the road will be hard and painful.  We must do so even if there is love, because despite the affection and passion in the beginning, not all relationships are wise, nor does all love understand the language of respect or want to change habits or behavior to save the relationship.

By having good self-esteem and a strong attitude to defend our own dignity, will help lead us away from these situations. For maturing is also letting go of that person who doesn’t want to change. Trust me learning to let go will bring happiness and in time does heal and you will start discovering yourself again.

I found in the after mass that clinging to my past enslaves my thoughts, my mind, my heart, and soul of the hurt done to me. Yesterday cannot be erased, or edited, let alone forgotten. We cannot change people or force them to love us as we would like them to overcome them, you must first accept them.

 

Loving is also learning to let go, because it’s nearly always love that causes us more suffering. Only when we accept what cannot be will, do we allow ourselves to be free to find new happiness.

 

 

No one comes into this world knowing everything nor do they bring along the manual of the perfect decisions or relationship, or those that are exempt from error.

 

Living is tasting, touching, initiative, taking risks and making mistakes, hence, we should consider the following… I know this will be hard to try not to be angry, do not fill your heart with your mind’s anger or rancor which is one of the hardest thing I had to learn due to so much pain .  But everyday I’m still learning to let go of what was horribly done to me.

 

Letting go is an art that must be done peacefully and without anger. Only then we will allow ourselves to be free, discovering that every day the pain is much less.

 

To let go, the first thing we must do is learn to accept: accept that every experience was worth it and part of the fabric of our life.  One who denies and forgets does not take responsibility, does not heal, and does not learn. You need to accept what happened and understand that letting go is also growing.

 

Someday everything will make sense. The pain of right now, the chaos and the uncertainty for having let go which defined you before will be that door that will bring much better things tomorrow, because remember…everything happens for a reason.

 

 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

 

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