Narcissists always seem to land on their feet, like the proverbial cat.
While you are at home still feeling hurt and Sad on the breakup and trying to heal from your relationship, they are happily posting photos all over social media of how
wonderful their life is now. You will find the most faithful and true to the
relationship is still single trying to heal from the abuse and manipulation and
everything that happened and the after mass of the separation and picking up
the pieces.
When I think
about everything and when the blindfolds came off on the true person I loved
and saw it was a real kick in my face after all I done and been through with
this person. But I learned they didn’t
really love me they are incapable of love, so everything is superficial and
therefore your relationship was never real.
One of the next things I had to also deal with was the betrayal and what
came out of the grass was I shocked not really. But it was posted shortly after
the breakup and hurt me deep to the core. That’s when I realized that
everything was a lie and blindfolds came off and the truth came to light to
what I thought. It was as if they did it
to prove replacement and that nothing mattered in our relationship. So, if this happens to you remember the next
time you see a smiling picture of your narcissist ex with his new supply, know
that it’s just a mask. There are no real feelings. They are simply
resorting to their survival mode and still abusing you and hurting you in every
means. The fact you feel sad is a good thing because it shows you have
developed normal brain functioning and for you it was a real relationship and abuse
you underwent. Never be ashamed of that. We all must go through the
emotions.
As per the quick replacement you will find they may not be a prime, grade A chunk
of fresh meat for them, but the replacement is really a “port in a storm" that
will work until they don’t get what they need and will start finding something
better to latch onto. These replacements are known as “panic picks or rebounds.”
More than likely your partner has
been working on grooming this replacement and having secret chats or
interaction secretly looking for attention and not dealing with issues in the
home or changing their aggressive behavior, so they think the replacement is perceived
to be better than you but remember we all have been on that honeymoon stage with
them and promises that were made. You will
also find that they will have plenty of side pieces they can run to also as you
see on their social media and who they follow and plus asking women to accept
friendships with. When your partner is deceitful and sneaky the truth usually
comes out. More than likely they probably
had an occasional sexual encounter already with the replacement and when they
show up after the breakup it’s like a vulture coming into to feed waiting for
its kill. You see no matter what the truth
and the motive will come to light and that’s when you must take those
blindfolds off to see the truth of everything.
You see the narcissist did the same thing to you in the beginning of your relationship, but at
least it wasn’t based on lies as per deceit or betrayal so you must remember that
the loser will think they have hit the jackpot. But time will soon happen, and
the tables will be turned.
You see Naturally, the narcissist will give them a strong dose of love
bombing taking them on trips or doing things they didn’t do with you to ensure
their infatuation and being the greatest partner that could happen. But as soon
as the narcissist secures a better situation, it's over. Probably within time.
These poor fools that quickly jump into bed with them believe they are in an
amazing relationship, but we all have been there with them this is also called
the honeymoon stage with a narcissist … When I saw the snake or what I call vulture
who came out of the grass … Talk about a panic pick!!
I don’t care anymore about them because I saw what I needed to see that
allowed me to take the blindfolds off to move on and start dealing with the emotional
and the after effects of domestic abuse.
So not sure if they are still together
because I have him blocked everywhere and have instructed everyone to not
mention his name to me or them. But wouldn’t be surprised if they are together
or if they moved on to another supply due a narcissist has to keep up his image
to prove to everyone it wasn’t him that caused the relationship to end and also
playing the victim and make me out to be the bad person. I am just glad in my situation the truth also
came out. But I hope they are together because I can't think of two people who
deserve each other more than ever due to both having the same personality sneaky,
lying and deceit. What a way to start a relationship…. That way they are both
my karma they can torture each other later once the dust settles and the magical
moment ends. Cause we all know time they will not change them because I can
leave knowing I did everything in my relationship to keep it together and gave
up a lot to please them and they still didn’t love me or change their
aggression behavior, so I had to realize that’s who they are.
To be perfectly honest I realize Narcissists are always on the hunt for supply
they need gratifications of their egos for applause, adulation, worldly power,
gorgeous willing, adoring, malleable partners.
How to spot one is check out there social media You probably find tons
of women on there social media that they are trying to be friends with or
already from around the world
Whether you're happy they're out of your life or not, this can still be
upsetting to hear and the emotions you must deal with and from the abuse. If
you have been with a narcissist for decades, remember that your “relationship”
with this person is up for grabs–expendable.
Narcissists are not loyal to anyone but
themselves. They are ruthlessly wanton and careless about the feelings of
others, even their own children. Authentic feelings are not part of the
narcissist’s life vocabulary. They tell great stories about their devotion, but
this makes for great image enhancement.
You must remember your partner whether it’s common law or marriage and you decide to separate from this person, you will become the enemy. In my case I was always the enemy in his eyes so no different then and now, that is why he treated me that way with abuse, I guess. So they needed someone quickly because after all, I was no longer servile–the one who gives the king his crown and scepter.
Even before the separation it not unlikely that the narcissistic had found my replacement. He had already drifted to new sources of psychological supply that would keep his ego fully inflated. There is no sadness or regret about all those years together but must now deal with mental health from the abuse and effects it gave me alone. I remember giving my life and soul to this person. I am still shocked and grieving the loss of the relationship it was a death in me and trying to heal from all the trauma mentally. It’s not easy when you let your guard down and give someone your heart and soul.
I know now and understand why mine pivoted
quickly to his next human supply. He always felt I was always interchangeable
with the next. Forget the years, the life experiences, the family we shared
together—None of these matter to them from day one. They may have been playing
the great part of being upset after the break up and the victim but this is all a performance
for when time comes for court. It’s a well-rehearsed
polished act which has happened before and been down this road again. After
all, the narcissist is an excellent actor who fools most people. He has been
doing this all his life.
So, my advice is Pay attention to your needs
and wishes. Never blame yourself for becoming involved with them, your heart
was true not theirs. They also fool you with promises and were gaslighting you
as they have done to others who became involved with them.
Focus on your life, your
talents, your wellbeing, and sense of peace also seek professional help dealing
with the emotions and pain that you are going through. You have been carrying
this great burden with you and a long history of mental and emotional abusive in
the relationship and always hoping that things would change and have worked out
but it drained you mentally and physically it sucked the life out of you and
your beliefs and dreams. Now you have to move on and find the strength and the
new you and start living a lighter life, simpler and start rediscovering that
you are an incredible individual–and are so wonderful just the way you are and that
so many people look up to you for strength and love you.
You are not alone
xo
Concrete Angel
Tuesday D’Eon
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