Stop Putting Yourself Down!

 Most people struggle with self-esteem throughout their lives but after domestic abuse it can be more challenging. Even the most positive, confident people struggle sometimes with self-esteem.  

Coming out of emotional and mental abuse you may feel as if you have completely lost yourself. Narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation over years are a form of brainwashing, and as such, it can destroy your sense of self -worth and who you are. You may no longer feel like the person you were before all this began.

Recovering from abuse can be a very long process, but you must learn to stop the negative self-talk in your head right in its tracks.  In many cases, those who have experienced narcissistic abuse will struggle to recognize themselves in the mirror because they no longer see their true reflection staring back at them.

Sometimes it’s easy to be hard on ourselves – to focus on the things we do poorly, the mistakes we make, or the things we’re not any good at. To make matters worse, we’re then quick to dismiss our accomplishments and the things we do well! If you find that you’re often your Having healthy self-esteem means that you see value and worth in who you are. It means that you accept yourself (all parts of yourself) and believe in yourself (even when you fail). People that struggle with self-esteem tend to feel bad about themselves and tend to think they aren’t as good as other people. They lack confidence in themselves and have a hard time noticing their strengths and positive qualities.

If this sounds like you, don’t get discouraged! The good news is that self-esteem is just a pattern of thinking, and you can change this pattern and stop being your own worst critic.

Stop thinking you’re not special cause You are special. Just like your fingerprint is unique, you are a unique person with a special purpose. No one is born to do the things you were born to do.

You are special because God made you special.

As a being of power, intelligence, and love, and the lord of his own thoughts, person holds the key to every situation, and contains within themself transforming and regenerative by what they themself what they will.

Do not compare yourself with others. There is no need to compare yourself with another person. If you look around, there may be many people who excel in your field or found a loving person. You can learn from them, but do not let them intimidate you. Never, ever compare yourself with others whether you feel they are superior to you or inferior to you. Do not let that hinder your genius. Be your best and that is all what matters. When you are at your best, everything you do is a masterpiece. You do not have to prove anything to anybody.

You have the same three-pound brain as everybody else, which can do wonderful things.

By realizing that you are special, you can make a difference in the world, you can have an impact on your surroundings. The successful accomplishments of your goals and dreams lead to greater contribution to yourself, your family, and the world.

By being your best, you can make a great impact on society.  By acting, you bring your unique credentials to the table. You make the world a better place to live. Step out and do something.

There is enough for all of us. There is an abundance of good things and abundance is available to you. By keeping in mind that you are special, you will have an abundant supply of opportunities and ideas to excel in your chosen endeavor.

Things you can say to yourself to feel great and special always:

• I am a lot stronger and more powerful than I thought.
• I have unlimited potential.
• All the power is within me; I can achieve anything I set my mind to.
• I am abundant. My life is abundant with good things.
• Don’t believe your thoughts.
• Create a healthy environment
• Embrace self-compassion.
• Don’t compare yourself to other people
• Surround yourself with positive and loving people
• Forgive yourself.
• Set Boundaries
• Every day, in every way I am becoming better and better.
• I strive for excellence in everything I do.
• I deserve the best.

Consider talking to a therapist. Having a strong sense of self-esteem is important for your well-being. Take steps to make sure your surroundings and the people in your life help support your sense of self-worth. Treat yourself with the same kindness and encouragement that you would a close friend. Also, work on acting confidently even if you don't feel confident in the moment.

Finally, consider talking to a mental health professional about your self-esteem issues. A therapist can help you address some of the thinking patterns that contribute to poor self-esteem and develop new coping mechanisms that support a positive sense of self.

You are beautiful and are worth so much to so many. Stay strong and love yourself again.

 Concrete Angel

Tuesday D'Eon