Don't let anyone invalidate or minimize how you feel. If you feel something, you feel it and it's real to you. Nothing anyone says has the power to invalidate that, ever. No one else sees life through your eyes.
No one else has lived through your experiences. And so, no one else has the right to dictate or judge how you feel. Your feelings are important, and you deserve to be heard. They are inherently valid, and they matter. Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise.
You are allowed to be upset when someone hurts you. You are not obligated to always take on the role of the “bigger person" and invalidate your own feelings. There is no need to immediately search for the lesson in the hurt or thank the one who hurt you for gifting your resiliency. You are allowed to just feel hurt. Betrayed. Wounded.
You don't have to swallow the pain. You don't have to let it simmer within you, only to bubble up when you least expect it. The feelings of those who hurt you are not more important than your own. You don't owe them forgiveness. You don't owe them grace. You don't owe them understanding. You owe yourself all of that.
You owe yourself the freedom to honor your feelings, however heavy they may be.
Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you over sensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone doesn’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.
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