Telling a survivor to leave it in the past is dismissing the reality of their nervous system and body. No one wants to relive traumatic experience on an ongoing basis. Survivors respond to past trauma, because they are traumatized not because they are unwilling to let it go.
It takes a lot of courage for a loved one to open up to you about a traumatic experience they’ve been through. Trauma can span a range of events like physical or emotional abuse, sexual assault, a car accident, a health crisis, a shooting, a natural disaster or the death of a loved one (just to name a few).
So, when a person you care about decides to share their personal story, you want to respond to their pain in the “right” way — but it can be hard to know what that is. Often, in trying to be supportive, friends or family inadvertently say something insensitive that backfires and causes hurt instead.
Your response has the power to show them that it’s safe to open up to people or that it’s better to stay quiet, People don’t need advice, solutions, comparisons or trite comments about suffering. They need listening, empathy and support on their terms.”
It takes a lot of courage for a loved one to open up to you about a traumatic experience they’ve been through. Trauma can span a range of events like physical or emotional abuse, sexual assault, a car accident, a health crisis, a shooting, a natural disaster or the death of a loved one (just to name a few).
So, when a person you care about decides to share their personal story, you want to respond to their pain in the “right” way — but it can be hard to know what that is. Often, in trying to be supportive, friends or family inadvertently say something insensitive that backfires and causes hurt instead.
Your response has the power to show them that it’s safe to open up to people or that it’s better to stay quiet, People don’t need advice, solutions, comparisons or trite comments about suffering. They need listening, empathy and support on their terms.”
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